Avoid giving them any of your attention immediately. Instead show concern for the person who has been hurt. Say something like “It’s not fun when someone hurts you is it?” You are showing them how their behavior affects others and makes them feel sad.
Over it? Use your phone timer to set a time limit for a play activity – your full attention for five minutes is better than half pai for longer.
Had enough? You may feel like you need alcohol or drugs to relax – but they often make the situation worse, especially when you have to deal with kids. Who could help you cut down or cut it out?