Is it noisy or are there other distractions around? Take them to a quieter, calmer place.
If they’re always ignoring you, you might want to get their ears checked - it’s free for under-fives.
Calm requests work better than loud orders. Shouting raises a kid’s stress levels and releases cortisol, which can reduce their ability to listen.
Offering choices makes kids feel like they have some control and can reduce tantrums. For example, getting dressed is not an option but what you wear can be.
Keep choices simple - red socks or blue socks? If you ask them what socks they want to wear, they’ll choose the ones in the wash!
Young kids like to please. Praise the behaviour you’d like to see more of. “Kapai – thank you for putting that away when I asked you.”
Over it? Use your phone timer to set a time limit for a play activity – your full attention for five minutes is better than half pai for longer.
Had enough? You may feel like you need alcohol or drugs to relax – but they often make the situation worse, especially when you have to deal with kids. Who could help you cut down or cut it out?