Avoid giving your child attention after they’ve hit someone. Instead show immediate concern for the person who has been hit. Say something like “It’s not fun when someone hurts you is it?” This helps. your child realise how their behaviour has affected other people and made them feel sad.
Clearly explain what will happen if they hit – eg “if you hit your sister, you will need to play on your own for a while” You might need to remove them physically to stop them hitting – try to do this firmly and calmly - not roughly. By calmly removing the hitter and making them play on their own, you’re giving them a logical consequence for the unwanted behaviour.
A change of scene might help calm things down faster for everyone. Physical activity is a great way to use up adrenaline our bodies produce in response to stress. Ask them “Do we need to go outside and do some running and jumping? Singing and dancing?”
Over it? Use your phone timer to set a time limit for a play activity – your full attention for five minutes is better than half pai for longer.
Had enough? You may feel like you need alcohol or drugs to relax – but they often make the situation worse, especially when you have to deal with kids. Who could help you cut down or cut it out?