Some things you can try

  • Help them learn to play with others.
  • Ask them to do one thing at a time – not a list.
  • Give them lots of praise, being specific about what you like.
  • Give them little jobs to do, like handing you the pegs for the washing or collecting the mail.
  • Explain why you don’t like something they are doing.
  • Respect their boundaries too – don’t force them to hug or kiss friends or relatives if they don’t want to.
  • Stay calm and loving when you follow through with consequences.

Making it into a game or singing a silly song can lighten the mood and avoid a power struggle